This is a very difficult topic. There is a theological debate about this subject, but the topic becomes different when someone in your family, who struggles with demonic torment, takes his own life or dies by overdose. There are cases of suicides in the Bible: Saul intentionally fell on his sword, Samson pulled the temple down on himself, Ahithophel strangled himself and Judas hung himself. All these people are seen in a very negative light in the Bible.
Prophet Elijah prayed "It is enough! Now, Lord, take my life, for I am no better than my fathers!” (1 Kings 19:4). And the apostle Paul told the Corinthians that his trials were so difficult that he "despaired even of life" (2 Corinthians 1:8).
Suicide is a sin because it involves taking your own life. But this sin is not an unpardonable sin. Jesus’ death on the cross took care of every sin---past, present, and future. It doesn’t give me an excuse to sin; the opposite is the case. It gives me the freedom to overcome the power of sin. If Jesus’ sacrifice covers my sin, the sin of taking my own life is no different than any other sin. It’s horrible and heartbreaking, but not unforgivable.
What happens if the person taking their own life didn’t have time to confess their sin? We are not in a place to know that; therefore, we can’t make those judgments. Also, most people who die by suicide had a previous mental issue as well as the devil’s grip over their life. They die because they aren’t thinking clearly and suffering from excruciating emotional pain. They feel that death will end that pain.
“God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it” (Ephesians 2:8, 9 New Living Translation). These are comforting verses for those who are born again, following Jesus, and yet they wrestle with certain habits, struggle with affliction, experience torment and never experience complete victory. They die in that struggle. I don’t believe in universal salvation or that you can live as you want to and still go to heaven.
Paul referred to believers who built their Christian life using poor material, which was burned in the end, but they themselves remained saved. “If anyone’s work is burned, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire” (1 Corinthians 3:15).
At the moment of our death, very few of us will be able to be completely perfect in our thoughts, motives, behavior, and attitude. Our salvation doesn’t hinge on making sure all things are confessed before we die; our salvation is in Christ, not in our confession. Confession is important. Repentance is vital, but Jesus is the giver of eternal life.
I believe God is bigger than our sins and mistakes. Because of Christ, we do not need to live in constant fear of losing our salvation. Although a person is able to walk away from Christ, renounce his salvation and forfeit his place in heaven, those who are children of God can set their hearts at rest with no condemnation, “For if our heart condemns, God is greater than our heart and knows all things” (1 John 3:20).
My goal is not to encourage those struggling with whether or not it’s okay to take your life but to let you know there is total freedom in Jesus.
Don’t look to death as your deliverance; look to Christ.
Seek deliverance while here on earth, not in death.
Get help; seek out a counselor or a professional specialist.
As long as there is breath in you, there is hope for better days.
The devil lies by saying that the world would be a better place without us and that death will stop all the pain. Yes, suicide stops the pain for the individual, but it will pass all that pain onto everyone who truly loves and cares about that individual.